5 key ideas for parents to achieve what we set out to do

5 key ideas for parents to achieve what we set out to do

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Almost everyone does some kind of evaluation at the end of the year and we set goals for the next 365 days. Whether in writing or in mental form, it is almost an innate human behavior of healthy people: assess the state of their life and establish how we want to change or improve it. And in fact, according to Victor Frankl, an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist, that is what keeps us alive and allows us to face adversity: having goals or objectives to meet.

However, we do not always succeed, and many times we abandon the path. And that has repercussions on our self-esteem and makes us lose optimism. So We want to propose you some ideas and tools so that this year you stay focused and get closer to that life you imagine.

1. Be clear about your goals and above all, establish a limited number of them. For big goals, it's best to set one at a time. Anyway, no goal is too big or too small: everything that is important to you is valid: Spending more time with your children, losing 5 kilos, writing a book, quitting smoking, changing jobs, etc. But keep in mind that if there are many, it is better to focus one at a time.

2. Set goals that have a deep meaning for you and remember that meaning whenever you are tempted to lower your arms. It is not the same to say: "I have to lose weight" than to know that this is important "because being a healthy woman I will be able to take better care of my children"; “I have to save money” is not the same as “I have to save to be able to reform my house and have a more comfortable life with the people I love the most”. It is worth having that phrase written in the drawer of the night table and looking at it every night or every morning.

3. Get ahead of the obstacles that will be presented. This point implies, in addition to setting goals, establishing what situations may make it difficult to fulfill them and what strategies to adopt in case they arise. In a note on this subject written by Lesley Alderman at, he quotes Peter Gollwitzer, a professor of psychology at New York University, who says that people who "plan" obstacles are more likely to achieve their goals than those who do not. they do. A 2009 Gollwitzer study published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine compared two groups of women who wanted to be more active. Both were given guidelines for a healthier life, but one of them was also given strategies to cope with circumstances that could affect the achievement of goals. For example: If it rains, go to the gym and use the walker; If one day I skipped the activity, the next day attend anyway, etc. This second group performed much better.

4. Repeat to yourself frequently that you are going to achieve it, and visualize yourself having achieved your goal. In fact, this is what "the law of attraction" is all about. This law is the belief that thoughts (conscious or unconscious) influence people's lives, since they are energy units that will return a similar wave to the person.

Most authors associate the law of attraction with the phrase "you become what you think." According to the supporters of this law, this means that the thoughts that a person possesses provoke the emotions and the result is that "you get the things you think; your thoughts determine your experience."

5. Work on your goal every day. Daniel Pink, author of "The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us" argues that small steps that help maintain interest and focus are a slow but sure path to goals. For example, if the goal is to save to buy certain things later, keep a piggy bank in sight and put in some coins or bills every day, in addition to the most important savings you can make at the end of the month.

And above all, trust yourself. Ahead!

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