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Why is "milf bad in bed"? What do young fathers complain about most often?

Why is "milf bad in bed"? What do young fathers complain about most often?


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"I love our children more than life, but I hate what she became after childbirth and what parenting did to us - passionate lovers" - says Marcin, 7 years after marriage, children - three years and a year.

Do you also hear "maybe tomorrow, sunshine" most days of the month? I know that this is not the best testimony about me, but towards ... it takes me when she just hugs our son and there is no time for me. - complains Krystian, dad of two-year-old Antek - Because tired, sleepy, because he doesn't feel like it. Seriously? I was needed only to father a child? You can't love children and still see your husband? I have no problem to hug in the bedroom after playing on the carpet and arranging the blocks in the evening. She unfortunately has. He takes his son to bed and his passion evaporates ... I have the impression that he does it specifically to have an excuse ...

These and similar voices are not uncommon. They exist and have considerable firepower. In spite of what young mothers usually say, they think men perfectly accept their new place in the family.

Meanwhile, gentlemen often do not deal with "putting" aside. They are unable to accept that their place in the family is changing. They can't keep up with what is expected of them. Some look at it differently. They say that men are not able to meet the requirements, that they are not ripe for a new role. However are you sure? Or maybe it's worth trying to understand their reasons? Listen to what they say?

What do young Dads complain about the most?

"Milfs" stop taking care of themselves

The term "mummy" is pejorative, it is used to describe a woman who, after having a child, forgets about herself, is realized only in one area, which may be natural for her, but for the environment - who knows her in a "different edition" - usually is difficult to accept.

Men notice that the period after childbirth is special in terms of approach to their appearance. Women tired of new tasks, burdened with many responsibilities - often give up what was previously important to them. Slim figure, good condition, hairdo, well-groomed hands - they cease to matter. Of course - the most important are not, but ... when a woman suddenly stops taking care of herself and gives herself 100% to her child - a legitimate question arises - what about her?

Who is hidden under stretched tracksuits and a dirty blouse?

Unlimited dedication to the child

Mom's new role is very absorbing: feeding, cuddling, hugging, changing. All this because of staying with the child at home mainly applies to women. It is understandable that it takes time and energy for all this, but where is the border beyond which young mothers devote themselves to motherhood without memory and all other duties go to the sidelines? When should you sound the alarm and say, "Dear woman, do you still have a husband?" And finally - can young mothers require men to follow them step by step, that they almost completely give up their needs from day to day, change immediately and without a word of opposition? What if they want something different?

Gentlemen often say quietly that they do not understand this attitude. They long for common sense, a world in which their needs were noticed and accepted. And it's not just about sex, but also just about closeness: hugging, long conversations, going out together.

Men don't stop at just complaining and remembering what they used to be. Among them are those who try to re-ignite the old heat. They often actively take care of the child and do not understand why their partner loses the need to spend time alone.

Sex ceases to exist

"It annoys me when I read that women don't want intimacy because we're not trying. I do not think so? Is only one party responsible for sex? And the second? After giving birth, my wife has stopped trying for almost 4 years. I do a lot to make it cool and she "gives up". I tried to talk, but she wriggled with fatigue. I have less and less desire for sex that looks like this. It used to be different ... "- Łukasz writes in the forum.

This is another accusation to "moms" - that they stop feeling like sex and think that only a man is responsible for the quality of life. Does that make sense?

The woman turns into a manager after giving birth

What else do men accuse women of?

Well, that after delivery they change the tone and manner of communication. Suddenly, from the need to save time and get everything they need immediately, they change their tone into a manager - "bring", "improve", "stand up", "hold". Gentlemen say that it is extremely discouraging ... and degrading.

And when this tone comes to picking on everything at every turn - the problem begins. Everyday communication matters, and changing it into business talks and eternal complaining has a negative impact on relationships.

Comparison with others and too high requirements

Men in honest conversations admit that "moms" are very demanding, they can easily calculate what they need, which is necessary for them to feel happy. Their requirements increase dramatically, they glide right after they become mothers. They do not spare time for comparisons that are to motivate the partner, but often lead to a feeling of helplessness.

"It has been hard for me since the day I became a father. Not only you women have the right to worse days, doubts and comments. However, complaining goes away, you have the social consent to it - you can freely write about how we men are immature, egoistic, shallow, when we say directly that we miss you, as we knew you before - before you became moms. Sure, most couples are overwhelmed and their relationship returns to normal after a momentary turmoil. They can shape their lives according to new rules, but there are also a lot of those in which a woman becomes a mother fixed on the background of a child in a negative word for this meaning. I know what he is writing because I lost my wife I knew so far because of the child I love more than life. I know that blaming my own offspring is weak, but I'm not surprised at men who talk about it loudly. That is why he calls for understanding and common sense. In addition to children, we are also. Don't forget about your husbands and partners. "- Bartek, dad of year-old Jas.

Do you read and think it's terribly weak? That what is the conversation from?

You are right, but the experience of many psychologists shows that this is a big problem. Young daddies feel overlooked. And they usually digest their bitterness in silence.

Of course, all the allegations made by men against women can be reversed. It will be easy to invent arguments that directly go to the other party's "guilt", will outweigh the scales in favor of young women. However, it's harder to read, think and try to make it better. After all, a mother is also a woman ... For the good of the children, it is good for her to remember about it. And even in this young fathers are right.



Comments:

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  2. Darcy

    effectively?

  3. Hewlitt

    Incomparable phrase, I like it a lot :)

  4. Halig

    In my opinion, you are wrong. I can prove it.



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