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Do you like your child A few words about bringing up words ...

Do you like your child A few words about bringing up words ...

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Parenthood is not a task for people with a heart of hearts. This is one of the most important challenges facing adults and parents. Although difficult, it can also be very pleasant, it can be a source of amazing experiences that are not synonymous with anything else. It is important, however, to like your role and ... your own child.

Do you like your child

It's obvious that you love your child. However, do you like them? You don't know how to check it? Imagine this situation. You lie comfortably in a bathtub full of foam, you read a book, you relax. The first fatigue has passed. You feel that you are gaining strength and in a moment you can leave the bathroom and do something else. Suddenly you look out the window and see the car from which your child gets out with dad / grandmother / babysitter. What do you feel? Are you disappointed? Do you feel someone interrupting you with a promising evening?

It is obvious that children can be cranky, unpredictable and difficult. Well, unless yours are not worse days, then read no more. However, it is worth doing everything so that the time spent with the child is not perceived as a difficult task to be carried out and that it is a pleasure every day and not from a holiday.

A child is a family member who should not limit our freedom and joy of life. We should learn to live with our children in everyday activities. It is not good when a toddler is an obstacle for us to realize our dreams, rest, regeneration, or everyday activities: cleaning, cooking or shopping.

What should a parent be like?

Of course, there are philosophies and theories of raising children that suggest us to meet all the needs of the child immediately, allowing the toddler to explore the world, joyful expression, expressing emotions anytime and anywhere, expecting adults to be inhuman patience and repeating the same hundreds of times until the toddler finally understands . If we want to live according to their assumptions, we have the right to do so. Let me write: it doesn't have to be this way. There is also another way.

A good parent is a person who can be:

  • warm and kind on one hand
  • demanding and firm on the other.

People who think that it is impossible to reconcile these two attitudes have a poor imagination. Those that argue that discipline is screaming and humiliation apparently exist in a caricatured world. Just like those who argue that a good example alone is enough. It is not enough, because a small child is not a miniature of an adult!

You decide first

There is nothing wrong with giving your child a choice. If a two-year-old chooses to wear green or blue tights, everything is fine. However, what is alarming is how many parents see it not surprisingly that a child decides when and how parents are to leave the house and when they themselves should go to kindergarten: will they play alone or with children on a given day? crossing the plans of other family members.

It is obvious that in the case of young children, parents make the decision. As a child grows up, as he grows, he should have more and more to say. It is wrong to say that the requirement to follow the rules for a few years old will result in raising a mindless robot! Every child naturally has a need to emphasize their own 'I' and when ready, they will learn to decide about themselves. Experts suggesting that it is different have apparently forgotten what growing up is ...

Don't worry, your child will stop liking you!

Parents are afraid to discipline their children because they are afraid that the little ones will stop liking them. Often, such doubts result from guilt associated with returning to work, the inability to devote enough time to the toddler, "competition" from always smiling grandparents.

Meanwhile, it is worth realizing that consistent, clearly bounding parents are an oasis of safety for the child, the most important people who are not afraid to face the problems that the child encounters on its path during adolescence.

Do not repeat yourself

Easy to write, harder to do. However, most of us repeat, admonish and remind you hundreds of times. If this role does not bother us, that's fine. However, there are many adults who feel tired and frustrated. Then what?
It is worth realizing that a child is not a miniature of an adult.

The child does not know the rules of the world, he is just learning them. It is the parent who is to show how to function in reality. Therefore, appealing to the conscience of a two-year-old, or long explanations why a four-year-old did wrong, usually produce a simple pattern in the toddler's head, which in a nutshell can be described as "blablabla".

It would be great if the arguments of adults always went to children. However, an experienced adult knows that this is not the case. Children are not grown-up adults. They need not only an example, but also clear boundaries and a feeling that after crossing them they will meet with the previously stated consequences.

Therefore, a single explanation and making sure that the child listened is enough. There is no point in repeating yourself and conducting long monologues.

Do not be afraid of the reaction of others!

It is not strange or unusual for people to comment on how we are raising our child. Ba is typical.

Therefore, the sooner we realize that we have no influence on what who thinks about us, the better.

Raising a child is difficult. The toddler often tests the rules that are implemented outside the home. If he receives clear instructions that what is current at home does not differ from what is in force in a public place, he will stop exceeding the set limits. However, he must have a chance to check it out!

What can an adult do? Cut off your thoughts of what people will say and control your emotions. If we get furious, show that we don't control ourselves, we can be sure that the behavior that led to it will repeat itself. It's quite like the reflexes of children. If we pay too much attention to finger sucking, nail-biting, or other such behaviors, temporary activities will become a habit ... and trouble.

Do not apply rules you are not convinced of

There are many methods that have served parents for centuries, allowing them to raise their children wisely. Each parent can adapt them to their own needs, choosing those that will suit their needs, which will simply be close to them.

The most important thing is to be convinced of what you are doing. If doubts arise in our head, we will not be able to hide them from the child. It will first discover them ...

A good parent is not a parent who pleases children at every turn. This is a demanding and warm parent. Loving and firm. He is a man who takes responsibility for raising his children, without leaving this duty to others!